Tuesday, June 02, 2009 01:02
♥ Eulogy to Daddy from me.
Daddy, I hope you did hear my eulogy. I just can't stop missing you ):
We will always remember the moment when we learnt Daddy will never appear again. Our last encounter was a month ago, while he depart for South Africa training. We were so sure he would come home, however this appearance farewell bid in the Airport was the last …..forever in our memory.
When he called us from South Africa, we realize Daddy was counting the days to come home and be with us. We wish we could have had time to say goodbye ….but draw some comfort that Daddy’s life ended while he was doing his lifelong passion, skydiving.
Daddy was very passionate about his military career especially skydiving. He wanted us to share his passion and 2 months ago, he brought me for a tandem jump in USA. It was then that I truly understood what sparked the passion in his entire life; and I understood my Daddy in a way I had never before.
If Daddy’s passion was skydiving, his life was us. He had always been our rock, our pillar and our guiding light. He was also an amazing husband and an even greater father.
Daddy had always been a traditional man, believing that the man’s job was to provide for the family ; while the woman raised the kids and kept the household in order. But his traditional values were eroded by his love for both of us. Very often, he would clean the house despite after his tiring work or mummy was too busy with her work.
Daddy will never forget the wedding anniversary. Every year, he would surprise mummy with a gift or take the family out to celebrate. It wasn’t just a ritual or tradition to him, he cared so much about mummy that he would put an incredible amount of effort into finding the perfect gift ; A few years ago, he got mummy the purple gold bracelet which she loved and had wanted for a long time. It was a surprising gift to her and Daddy can read mummy mind, in every way he could. In a few months time, daddy and mummy should have been celebrating their 30 years of marriage and I’m sure that if he could be here, Daddy could once again surprise her with the perfect gift.
Daddy always told us that he will never compromise proper education for both of us. He always encouraged us to improve our knowledge through taking up relevant skills courses ; and we must learn passionately into the things we had an interest in. I remember when my sister failed her O’s level, Daddy did not blame nor scold her. To the contrary, he told her that it was all right as long as she had tried her utmost. My Jie Jie decided she was not competent in study and decided to avenue to attain a diploma in make-up and cosmetics. Despite I can sense that Daddy was objecting within his thoughts, but for the love shower upon her, he made sure she knew what she was deciding, remain focus and gave her his blessings and provided a constant source of support and encouragement.
Besides providing us proper and sustaining education, making both of us happy will always made daddy happier. When my Jie Jie turned 21, he took it upon himself to co-ordinate every single detail, ensuring her rite of passage would be something she would treasure and remember forever. He took the pain to trace all my Jie Jie friends contact, ensure every invitation was sent. He also knew that Jie Jie always wanted a PSP dearly, and in typical Daddy fashion, he had to spoil her. One of the many regrets that I will have to live with is he won’t be around to see me turn 21 tomorrow.
My Daddy will never watch us walk along the Aisle when both of us get married, nor holding his grandchildren one day. My departing word for my beloved Daddy…….
Daddy, you have been a strength and pillar for both of us and the family. You have shower your love in a unique way, even though you have left us, we will be strong and uphold the bond you uniquely created, we promise that we will look after mummy and till some day, we shall meet again. Daddy, we miss you dearly.
